A certain school of thought has dominated cultures all around the globe in recent years and this is what it says, Follow your passions and everything else will flow. This suggests that if one would only find that specific thing that they are zealous about then would life become easier for them. They would enjoy what they do and consequently become a success. It emphasizes on zeal and digging deep into the self to discover what it is that makes one tick and then never deviating from that. Here is the problem with this manner of thinking, it can be misleading in the sense that it causes those who take it with no pinch of salt to become sloppy at their current assignments if they think they are in the wrong job, profession or field altogether. It goes on to furnish them with attitude and arrogance just because they believe they don’t owe anyone excellence in something they aren’t passionate about.
How about the one that says If you marry your best friend then you are guaranteed of untold joy and longevity in your union? Many have thrown away true love after hearing this perspective which made them rethink who their best friend was. Constant unsettledness, second-guessing, and a fear to commit to the wrong one are all fruits of this line of thinking. It can cause people to constantly visit the past because they think they left their favorite people there and they should make amends with them. Sometimes, that is the case but where it isn’t, much heartbreak can result.
In all this talk about introspection, finding one’s true passions, and searching out a soul mate, one very important quality is overlooked and that is dedication. Dedication is for the sure, the serious, and the unwavering. It is for those who choose to take power away from unknown shapers of destiny but decide to create their destinies. Men and women who are committed to their spouses, families, and goals spend less time making and unmaking decisions, but more of it building their characters, their relationships, their wealth, you name it. They are forward-looking and very good at making headway.
I spoke to an entrepreneur friend of mine who inspires me a lot and I commented on how great it was that he was making money doing something he loves which is finance and the markets. I didn’t expect the response he gave me and this was it, “OH I hate the markets, you have no idea the headache of constantly making projections and doing maths to balance my books. People are ever contacting me for transactions and this eats up into my time. I do it because I saw a gap, took advantage of it and I am committed to making my fortune out of this”
I replayed those words in my mind and soon realized that following one’s passions is overrated while the teachings on commitment are lacking. The need to be steady and give your all to whatever you set out to do is important. There is no denying that where there is genuine love for something, it becomes easier to follow that thing through but we must not forget the power a human being possesses to make decisions. It’s even possible to decide to grow in love with something or someone without waiting for a feeling first.
Now how can you channel your commitment towards your targets? The first thing you need to do is realize the power you carry over your own life and how much of your success depends on you. Your outcome depends on you much more than it does your past, your setbacks, favor from other people, or support from your family and friends. Realizing this endows you with the virtue necessary to decide to keep working on yourself and your ambitions.
Next is the need to learn the art of eliminating distractions and calmly walking through a storm. Honey is sweet but much carefulness is needed in handling the honeycomb. Having made the resolve to work out your plans for the life of your dreams, treat opposing thoughts and words as noise and ignore them. When they get louder, work harder.
Pain is almost inevitable in life but the choice is left unto you to pick a kind. Are you going to go through the pain of disciplining yourself, waking up earlier, reading books, thinking, forgoing some fun activities to concentrate on some less thrilling and perhaps tedious ones as you build your legacy, or will you choose the pain of living in lack and dissatisfaction of knowing you could have been more than what you are had it not been for laziness? Give thought to this, hold yourself accountable for your own growth and success, and remove the option of falling backward. Do burn the bridges that lead back to your comfort zone so that success becomes the only possibility for you.