Marilyn asks about how to respond when a parent expresses their concerns that if a child is parented with PP how will they adjust to a school environment or other situations that are more authoritarian. “How does this prepare children for the real world” is a common question, which I address in this article The consequences of imposing consequences. I talk about how punishments, including imposed consequences, make it harder for children to connect with (and hence care about) the real consequences. Imposed consequences distract children from connection with the actual natural consequences of their actions.
When parents fear that the child who is given empathy at home will they always break down and cry in every difficult situation. I make the point that children who have a backlog of unexpressed and unresolved stress is more likely to become overwhelmed and less able to manage those emotions away from home. And for children who have extra needs like sensory processing difficulties it’s especially difficult for them to manage their frustrations in school environments if they don’t get enough emotional support and release at home.